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On this episode of The Zen Leader, I share the importance of feeling and clearing our emotions, including walking you through a brief meditation.

Intro:Welcome to The Zen Leaderwith Lara Jaye. Whether you’re a leader at home or in the boardroom, Lara provides the tools to help you get unstuck in different areas of your life. Now here’s your host, Lara Jaye.

Lara Jaye:Good morning and welcome to The Zen Leader.I am your host, Lara Jaye, and I am so glad you joined me this morning. Last week was our first show here on WSRQ, where I laid out the foundation of what The Zen Leaderis all about. If you haven’t listened to the show yet, you can go to www.wsrqradio.comand under “Local Shows,” and then “The Zen Leader,” and you can download it from the website. Soon, it will also be on iTunes.

Anyway, last week I talked a lot about my perfect storm. Maybe you have storms in your life. I talked about my perfect storm and what hit me when my marriage of 25 years ended in divorce. I experienced a health crisis and a spiritual awakening that I completely fought against. Piled in the middle of this massive storm was a hatred for myself that knew no end.

Now, hating yourself, [CHUCKLE] that’s pretty intense, right? But I didn’t realize until I started doing this work how important a healthy self-esteem really is. Self-esteem. It’s the cornerstone. It’s a confidence and satisfaction in yourself. Not ego, but it’s tied to your self-respect. It’s how you think. It’s how you feel about yourself, your health, relationships. Even your job can be affected by the way you value — or don’t value — yourself.

Self-esteem — or lack of it — can affect every area of your life, and I don’t think people realize this, how important it is. If you can hold your head high and feel proud of yourself and what you do, even when things don’t seem to be going well. Self-esteem gives you that courage. It gives you the courage to try new things and have the power to believe in yourself. It’s a measure of how you see yourself and how you feel about your life. Again, it’s not ego. It’s not bragging.

A healthy self-esteem, it’s an inner knowledge that you’re worthy exactly as you are. You accept and love yourself, at this moment, flaws and all. There are some people who are just born with incredible self-esteem, but then there are others, like myself, who, okay, that just wasn’t there.

I always say that self-esteem is a measure of how you see yourself and how you feel about your life. It will make sense. It would make sense to you that, in order to have good self-esteem, we would need to do things for ourselves and in our lives, that honor the amazing creations that we already are.

Essentially, I always feel like to have a healthy self-esteem, loving ourselves is a must. I write about this in my book that not loving yourself is kind of like watching dominos fall, one right after the other. Because if we don’t love ourselves, we choose maybe to not eat healthy or exercise, and that can send us down the road of health issues. We might allow anger to overcome us, and that can result in hurting others. Or if it’s pushed inward, sometimes depression and more health issues.

Not loving yourself can also present itself in other ways. Like, you might get frustrated easily. Sometimes you can have an eating disorder from it. Withdraw socially. Sometimes you can have an inability to see yourself squarely or be fair to yourself. You can’t accept compliments, neglect yourself, are reluctant to take on challenges.

You don’t trust your own opinion. This is so important. I never trusted myself for what I really wanted. I knew, deep down, the answers, but I always felt that I had to ask someone else. Often, too, folks who struggle with self-love or self-esteem, we can’t ever believe we’re enough. And no matter how hard we try, or how often we even hear it from other people, we still can’t believe we’re enough.

So, in order to heal this intense hatred I had for myself and bridge this disconnect between my body and soul, I began to intuitively do the three foundational pieces that I mentioned last week. The first one was to be still. That was, if you remember, embrace the white space in your day and get quiet, and just calm yourself. Be still. The second thing was to silence the mind chatter – not resist. Let this mind chatter come up, and the feelings, and handle it. Feel it. Don’t be afraid of it. The third thing was meditation. I would say the difference between prayer and meditation, for me, prayer is when I’m doing all the talking. I talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Meditation is when I finally — and you, finally — get quiet enough, shut our mouths, and hear. Hear the next direction. Hear our guidance. That, for me, is the difference.

But by digging deep into these three main tools, they’ll help you see what’s really happening in your life, and they’re going to help you clear the patterns and stuck emotions — which we are going to talk about today — so that you can eventually define even a new, bigger vision for your own life, if that’s what you want. It will help destress you. There are just so many things that it will do.

Over the last week, I heard from a few listeners that began to slow down by practicing being still and things were coming up for them. They were feeling emotions that they really weren’t quite sure what to do with them, and we are going to talk about that today.

Emotions are like a river. They should flow and they should flow freely. Using that river analogy, if your emotions are blocking up the dam, shall we say, the water can’t move freely and it causes issues. It causes detours, bumps in the road. Right? Sometimes our boat tips. Sometimes the river is muddy and we can’t even see what’s holding us back or sending us on a detour underneath the surface. Not dealing with our emotions can lead to all kinds of problems, like you feel trapped, you stop revealing really who you are. You begin to feel afraid of those emotions and then we suppress them even more. We push them back down — because they’re scary — because we have not been taught how to deal with them. The more we try to hold them in, it’s just a vicious circle. The more we try to hold them in, the scarier they get. They more they scare us the more, we hold them in.

In the end, it just becomes extra hard for us to live a full, happy life, with all of the suppressed emotion that’s built up. That’s what we’re really going to dig into today. This is what we do, though: We numb and we dumb ourselves so that we don’t have to feel. We keep ourselves busy at work, running around. We over schedule ourselves. We overeat. Some of us even over exercise. That’s not one that I do, but a lot of people do do that.

I warned you last week that this was most likely going to happen when you got still. Being still, emotions, things are going to come up. Mind chatter.

Being in touch with our own emotions and feelings makes us a better person. Whether you are a male or a female, child or adult, we can be authentically ourselves without having to put on a show for others. When we choose to bury our feelings though, this is what happens: We are actors. We act and we react.

By the end of today’s show, we will cover what to do with emotions that are coming up for you. In the last segment, we’re going to do even a guided meditation together, clearing some of those stuck emotions.

But before we dive into that, I want to share with you this concept that you may or may not have heard of, but your life is a reflection of your own inner world. Let me repeat that: Your life is a reflection of your own inner world. Everything in it: the people, the circumstances, the drama or not. I know that’s kind of a hard concept to grasp.

Honestly, it’s hard to admit. I did not want to believe it either, when I first learned the concept, until I personally started looking at difference scenarios in my life and matching it up with what was going on inside of me. And trust me, it wasn’t pretty to admit.

For example… I will share some of my examples. I was complaining to a friend of mine about the crazy drivers in Miami and he asked me, in return, “What’s going on inside of you that feels crazy and out of control?” [00:10:00]And that stopped me in my tracks because, at the time, my entire life felt like it was spinning out of control. He reminded me what I feel inside, I am putting out into the world, and receiving that same or more back. It’s kind of scary, if you think about it.

Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling afraid, there seems to be more and more things that happen in your life that invoke fear? Or even the opposite. You’re feeling loved and respected and it seems that everywhere you go, you’re loved and respected.

If you’re living in a messy house, I suspect your inner thoughts, actions, and beliefs are not clear and organized. The same if you have a messy, unkept car. What about yourself? How do you treat yourself with respect? As not valuable? I suspect you’re letting others treating you the same.

Think of this concept as the computer software programming that’s running you. We’re going to talk more about this in a few minutes when we come back from break, and I’m looking forward to just really diving in on this computer software program that runs us. We’ll be right back on WSRQ with The Zen Leader.

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Lara Jaye:We’re back on WSRQ with Lara Jaye and The Zen Leader. Right before break, we were talking about your life as a reflection of your own inner world, and I said think of this concept as the computer software programming that’s running you. Some of it runs in the forefront and other parts of it is running in the background without you even being aware, like your subconscious. In there are the beliefs and values that were implanted in us and, generally, at a very early age.

If there is something in your life you don’t like, you get to change it. A lot of us think that we don’t have control, but we really do. Think of your life and what you’re attracting and what you really don’t want. Here’s an example, a date who doesn’t respect or treat you the way you think you should be treated. Maybe you aren’t really valuing or respecting yourself first.

No matter what you’re doing consciously, the subconscious, that background computer program, runs the show, no matter what we’re doing consciously. The subconscious has been running their programs longer, they are stronger, and they are deeper engrained in our bodies. That’s why affirmations alone don’t work. The affirmations have to have deep feeling and deep emotion behind them to work in order to override.

Our bodies are such masterpieces. They tell us what we need. They tell us when to slow down, when to get quiet. They tell us when they want to release the emotions and when it wants to talk to us. And what do we do? We overburden it. We, again, numb and dumb ourselves because we think we have to get all of this stuff done. Or what? What’s really going to happen? Nothing. It’s just that this is engrained in us: Go, go, go, go, go, do, do, do, do, do, instead of slowing down and just being.

So these subconscious programs are the frequencies that are really going out into the world, bringing to you what you’re experiencing, and some of it you just might not like. Today, I want to offer to you to begin to look at your life from a higher perspective and compare it to what’s going on inside of you.

Now, this is not easy work. It takes time and, most often, lots of tears as you move through the layers of difficulties that have mounted inside of you. So, where do you begin? It’s begin to notice. You just notice. Become aware of what is going on around you and inside of you. Become aware of the traffic. Become aware of the things that are in your life that maybe you don’t want in there anymore.

You can’t change your life until you tap into what’s really going on inside of you. We need to take responsibility for our lives and take the time to do the inner work. Very few people are willing to do that. Very few clients are willing to do that. They might start and sometimes they struggle, but they, in the end, have to want this. You have to want this. You have to want to do the inner work, and it takes a while, but you can watch your outer world begin to show this new, amazing reflection of the new you that was created inside by changing your subconscious programming.

That subconscious programming is why we react to seemingly small things going on in our lives. It’s because they really have nothing to do with the present event. It was just a catalyst to bring up something stuck in our subconscious. I call them “triggers” myself. I will give you an example of a trigger.

So, I was at a retreat with a group of ladies and had recently been… I had talked about being diagnosed with Hashimoto’s and one of the main things was I needed to eat, for the most part, gluten free. Well, another woman in my group also had the exact same autoimmune disease, but her physician had said 100% gluten free and I was supposed to be somewhat gluten free.

Anyways, it was snack time and we were getting ready to have some snacks and I picked up something and immediately the other woman that was 100% gluten-free asked me, “Really, should you be eating that because that might have gluten in it,” or might have gluten or something, and it just triggered in me… it was small and it was silly how I reacted, and it was a small, loving gesture on her part, but how I reacted was uncalled for and I couldn’t comprehend – it took me about 15 minutes. I had to go for a walk and calm down and come back, and I thanked her. I thanked her for bringing up in me something that had nothing to do with what she had said to me, but it brought up something of when I was younger, of a disconnect to my body, of being weighed and measured and put on a door, and always having that feeling that I was not good enough and have to be on a diet.

So, it brought all of that up. Why? So I could talk about it and be healed from it and not carry that around in my body. It was a stuck emotion in my body. Again, it had nothing to do with that woman. But what do we do? We attack them. And unless I would have not done the inner work, I would have gone the rest of my life being mad at her. Instead, I thank her. Our soul brings in people in our lives because it knows, “Okay, Lara, you’re ready to get rid of this stuck emotion, so we’re going to let this circumstance come into your life so that you can clear it, so that you can move forward with your life and not hold this in your body anymore.” That’s just one example of triggers. There’s so many. I’m sure you can think of ones yourself.

Maybe you have experienced a time in your life when you also reacted to something that was so silly and you couldn’t figure out why you reacted like you did. Again, if your life is a reflection or a mirror of what’s going on inside of you, and if there is something in your life that you want to change, that you don’t like what’s out there or what’s showing up in your life, once we can pinpoint what that is, where it is in your body, what it is, we clear it.

Or, actually, at work I call it “clearing your crap.” This is actually my signature session I do with clients and for more information on it, you can go to my website at www.larajaye.com, and clearing that chaos — or crap — is always an internal process first, before our outer world can come into alignment with our dreams and the things that we really want in there, the people that we want, the support, the love, and we may not even have a clue what those dreams are for our life. But until we start clearing some of these past patterns and emotions that are stuck in our body, we’re never going to be able to see above the fog, above the fray, until we start getting rid of some of the stuff that’s stuck in us because, as we know, like attracts like.

Clearing the chaos in our lives — and this is what I do with clients, everyday — includes we look at, intellectually, what we say to ourselves in our mind, [00:20:00]physically. Our physical spaces — body, home, car, work, relationships — are all mirrors of what’s going on inside of us.

Emotions. Emotionally. Our emotions stem from our thoughts and they get stuck in our bodies. Also energetically. Everything that is you and attached to you that makes you the ball of light that you are.

So, it’s about letting go of things that no longer serve you. Then, we bring you back into balance so that the real you can shine, without all of the stuck emotions on us where we walk around all as triggers and acting, and reacting. You know? At the grocery store, when someone cuts in front of you, maybe they’re in a desperate hurry to feed their baby. We just don’t know.

But these are tools that I work with my clients on. When I talk to clients, we talk about all of the different areas in their lives and where they feel like their blockage is. What needs cleared? Is it in the health area? Emotional? Beliefs? Relationships? Love? Spiritual? Parenting? Social life? Financial life? Quality of life? They’re all of these.

One of my clients, Lisa, she was very depressed and not sure what the point of even getting up for the day was. She is single and continues to attract men who are not available physically or emotionally to her. We began, in our sessions, evaluating where in Lisa’s life is she not physically or emotionally available to herself.

So, if you see something that’s showing up in your life — for Lisa, men who weren’t physically or emotionally available — switch it. Go, “Where in my life am I not physically or emotionally available to myself?”

Of course, we also dove into her depression. We attract what we are. We attract what we hold in our bodies. We want love? We need to be love. We want health, wealth, abundance? We need to be it in our bodies first. Again, like attracts like. I want to help you learn how to tap in to your body and to make decisions from the inside out and no more reacting. As soon as we get back from break, we’re going to talk more about this here, on The Zen Leader.

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Lara:Welcome back with Lara Jaye and The Zen Leader. We were talking about we attract what we are. We attract what we hold in our bodies, the emotions. We want love? We need to be love. We want health, wealth, abundance? We need to be it in our bodies first.

Again, I’m going to help you today learn how to tap into your body and make decisions from the inside out. No more of this walking around, reacting. No more making decisions based on what they think. You know who “they” is – everyone else, outside of you.

Right now, think about what’s burdening you. What are you dreading? Where are you struggling? Where are you struggling to find an incentive to keep going? Maybe there’s something from the long ago past that keeps you from playing bigger in your life. What’s the one small thing in your life, right now, that isn’t going the way that you want it to? Where are you stuck or frustrated? Where is your life chaotic?

As I mentioned, the first step is getting still and noticing. This allows our emotions to come to the surface. Normally, we would just shut them down. We would numb out on the TV or chocolate, perhaps. Maybe we jump on the treadmill, with music blaring in our ears. Or even work in the late hours of the night just so we don’t have to feel whatever is in the pit of our stomach that was trying to get our attention.

Today, I am going to teach you something new and that’s how to clear stuck patterns and emotions in your body. I want everyone to get in a really comfy spot. Sit comfortably. I’m going to guide you through a clearing meditation for releasing emotions and we’re going to do this for the next 9 minutes. Let’s begin.

Get comfortable sitting up straight, eyes closed. Put a hand or two on your stomach area and take a few really deep breaths in. Breathe in through your nose, pushing your stomach out. You should feel your hand that’s on your stomach area rise with each breath. Let’s do that a couple of more times and I’ll be quiet. Breathe in through your nose. Let your stomach rise with each breath.

What’s on your mind right now that’s causing frustration? What are you feeling right now? Is there something holding you back from being who you’re called to be? Maybe it’s guilt over something from 20 years ago. Maybe it’s shame or something that happened to you that you didn’t have any control over. I want you to tap into that emotion right now. Just pick one. Whatever it is, feel it and let it come up to the surface. Don’t be afraid. There is no need to judge it. Simply observe and notice whatever that feeling is.

Now, I want you to feel that emotion in your body. Just while you’re sitting there, just kind of scan your body from top to bottom. Top of your head to the bottom of your feet. Scan your body and put your hand on that part of your body where you feel that emotion is sitting. A lot of times, it’s sitting in our stomach area. It might be on a shoulder. A lot of times I feel PTSD in people and it’s in their heart area.

If you don’t feel it in any particular area, that’s okay, too. No judgment here. Just keep feeling the emotion. The one emotion. Feel it. Put your hand on the part of your body where you think it’s residing and let that emotion rise to the surface. Feel the sensation in your body. Follow it around your body. Does it move around or is it just really stuck there? Does it make you sick to your stomach? Does it make your heart hurt? What memory does this emotion evoke? Don’t be afraid because what we resist, persists. Be open and let this emotion, feel it, let it move through your body. Like the river, we’re going to let it flow. Go slowly. There’s no hurry.

Invite your mind to revisit the scenario that may be attached to the feeling. We are welcoming this emotion to come up for a reason. It’s ready. It’s ready to be healed and cleared and moved out of your body. What’s the scenario that’s attached to it? Feel that emotion for one last time. [00:30:00]

Right now, we are going to honor and love and respect the feeling or emotion that’s stuck in our body. We’re going to respect it. It’s holding us back from being who we’re called to be, but we want to talk to it first. We want to hear what it wants to say to us. We want to know why it’s still here and what we need to know from it. Tap into this emotion. Feel it. Visualize it. If it could speak, what does it want to say to you? What does it want you to know about why it’s there or why it hasn’t left? Feel it. Honor it. Show it respect. It wants to tell you something. It wants to teach you something. Embrace it.

Now, with your hands, gently and lovingly – your hands, again, are on the part of your body where this emotion is sitting, so I want you to gently and lovingly pull the emotion out of your body just with your hands. Obviously, this is invisible. But it is emotion, it’s energy. It’s stuck in your body. I want you to pull it out of you and hold it in front of you, and we are going to honor it and thank it for teaching us whatever it needed to teach us. Thank it for what it did. But now it’s time to go.

When you’re ready to let go of this emotion, once and for all, just hold out both hands. Hold out both hands in front of you, with the emotion in it that you just pulled out of your body, and allow God and His angels to take it from you.

Again, put your arms out and let go of that trapped emotion. Imagine it being carried away, never to return, and let the emotions flow. You might be crying at this point. You might be feeling a lot of different emotions. Let it flow.

Imagine a gold and white light pouring into your head area and through your entire body. This light from God and His angels is permeating your cells and they are especially filling the spot where the emotion was that you just let go of.

As you take your next deep breath, notice how amazing you feel right now – lighter, burdenless, stronger. Now, slowly begin to reawaken. Begin to move different body parts – your toes, fingers, feet, roll your neck. When you are ready, open your eyes and sit quietly for a moment.We are going to be able to continue on your day, feeling energized and ready to live from this new, stronger spot.

We are going to take a break right now. When we come back, we will continue this conversation. We’ll be right back with The Zen Leader.

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Lara:I’m Lara Jaye and we’re back with The Zen Leader. Welcome back from break. Right before break, we did a little meditation. I cannot wait to hear from you and how that meditation made a difference for you. You can email me at info@larajaye.com. Also, if you would like an MP3 of that clearing meditation, I would be happy to send you that, complimentary. Again, just shoot me an email. I’d be glad to send that to you.

Meditation, that was just an example of just one guided meditation that I do with clients, as well as several others. But clearing the stuff in our bodies is the main thing that we all need to do so that we’re not walking around, triggering each other, acting, and reacting.

I say “acting” because we really cannot be our true self when we have… I don’t know, just imagine we’re walking around with all of this stuff stuck on us. You know? I mentioned earlier PTSD. There’s a lot of people, men and women, that have come back from war, people that have been traumatized in that way, people who have been traumatized just in whatever living and growing up and whatever living conditions. A lot of men and women are walking around with this stuck in their bodies and it is very painful. It’s painful. It causes health issues. That’s what all of these stuck emotions do is they stop us from being who we’re truly meant to be, who we’re called to be when we’re not dealing daily — on a daily basis — with a lot of these emotions. Especially if it’s something from years and years ago.

 So, by the time we hit our 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s, we have a lot of stuff we’re holding on to and as we walk around, everyone walks around life, someone else might say something and it will trigger us. Again, it has nothing to do generally with what’s happening right in that moment, but it’s something stuck in our bodies saying, “Hey! I’ve been trying to get your attention. You’re too busy. You’re not paying attention to me, so I’m going to create this circumstance that’s going to make you deal with it.” That is, hence, the trigger, as I call it.

We did this little meditation. Again, I have lots more where that came from. This is how important meditation is: Meditation – we’re going to talk a lot about this on The Zen Leaderover the weeks to come, how important meditation is and what it does for us in helping us dive deep inside of us and to really see what’s really there. You know? What beliefs and values are we holding on to that really aren’t us anymore? Maybe they were our parents and what they believed, and we don’t believe that. It’s things like that that meditation really uncovers.

Originally, I talked a few minutes ago about my client, Lisa, and we dove into her patterns and emotions. When we did that, we uncovered a hatred for herself and she didn’t belief she was ever good enough or deserved love. We were able to recognize layers of patterns — both conscious and unconscious — and cleared these blockages in her physically, emotionally, intellectually, and energetically. So, we dove deep into her depression, actually asking it why it is in her life and what it wants to teach her.

I can say when I was — for 10 years — I was extremely depressed, on and off antidepressants, and I, myself, I was in my counselor’s office and I saw a book sitting there. I think it was called “What Does Your Depression Want to Teach You?” and that question triggered me to start journaling about: Why are you here? Why am I depressed? Why are you here? Why won’t you leave? That set me on — that was probably about 15 years ago — and that set me on a journey of writing as healing, which is how I started writing.

But, for me, uncovering the depression… for depression, for everyone, it’s very different and it can’t really leave us until we understand why it’s there, why is it in our life. A lot of times it’s hereditary, there’s circumstances. There’s just so many different factors and we need to dive into not just depression, but all health issues and all issues. Why are you here? Why are you in my life? Why are there people in my life that don’t value me? Why do I let them in? Maybe I’m not valuing me. [00:40:00]Why do I let craziness or drama in my life? Where am I feeling out of control myself?

These are the things that going inward, meditating, does for us. We are able to just really look at it from a different perspective. Look at ourselves. Stepping back and looking at ourselves from a different perspective and going, “Okay, so if that’s in my body, is that really who I am? Do I really believe that?” Then we’ve got all these heads going on.

Then we’ve got some mind chatter going. We will talk a few minutes about mind chatter, of course, because it’s very, very important. I have an entire chapter on it in my book, More Than Enough.

Mind chatter, again, is another reason why we keep the radio on all the time. We don’t want to hear what our head is telling us. For years, I never understood that the mind chatter in my head was really… I got to control it. I didn’t know that I had control. So if you don’t know that, you know that now, just by hearing me. You get to control it.

It’s like – I mentioned this last week. It’s like a radio station. We get to decide if we are going to change the channel or not. If we don’t like what is being said, we get to choose. Do we like what it’s saying? Is it being positive and uplifting? Or are we telling ourselves negative things and going down that road, instead? Which, again, we feel it in our bodies.

We think negative thoughts? Our bodies start feeling bleh. We feel negative. Everything we think gives off, scientifically and medically, it changes our bodies. It gives off these endorphins and chemicals that actually tell us, “Okay. You’re thinking negative thoughts. Then your body is going to get these chemicals to produce more negative chemicals in your body.” That, of course, then leads us down even to a deeper, darker road, and we keep going. And it’s harder and harder to climb back up and to change that channel. That’s where meditation comes in because we can move around mind chatter a little bit easier once we can see, from the outside, looking in, what it’s really doing to us. That’s why it’s so important to take time every day to be still, to let our minds quiet.

My chapter is called “Silence the Mind Chatter.”

It’s so important to take that quiet time to hear what we’re telling ourselves because, again, whatever is prevalent in our mind is really what our subconscious is programmed. We may not even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves in this way. When I really slowed down, I couldn’t believe how mean I was being to myself, and you might do the same thing. I didn’t need anyone else to be mean to me; I was so mean to myself, in my head. Then I beat myself up that way. I didn’t need anyone else to say anything mean to me. That just sent me over the edge and caused a trigger anyway. The bottom line is dive into yourself. This is so important. Take that time. Take that time and be you, to be the real you. Again, we have to get still first.

Like I mentioned, with my client, Lisa, we were able to recognize these layers of patterns and clear these blockages in her physically, emotionally, intellectually, energetically. We dove into her depression and her other issues. We still do this. It’s not something you can do one day and then be done. There are layers and layers and layers.

After, shall we say, clearing her crap, Lisa was able to move to the second part and that was actually redefining a new vision for her life. She was able to see through the fog why she’s really here. Now, she’s being the love that she truly always was. It was just hidden. That’s what happens to us when we’re walking around with all of this stuck stuff on us. Who we are is really hidden. But now? She’s living life full on, each day, from her soul shining brightly.

That’s what you can do. You can feel amazing, jumping out of bed every day, excited. No matter what you’re doing right now in your life, I want you to know it’s perfect and you’re exactly where you need to be. Even if that’s in a feeling of being stuck, frustrated, and chaotic, that’s awesome. Use it to propel yourself to learning how to love yourself without any guilt, shame. Handle this stuff. Handle the emotions and stuck patterns, and define that new vision.

If you’re ready to do even more work around this, again, you can find me at www.larajaye.comunder the “Work with Me” section. Of course, email me anytime, info@larajaye.com. It’s been great being with you this hour and I will see you next Saturday on The Zen Leader.

 

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On this episode of The Zen Leader, I share the importance of feeling and clearing our emotions, including walking you through a brief meditation.

Intro:Welcome to The Zen Leaderwith Lara Jaye. Whether you’re a leader at home or in the boardroom, Lara provides the tools to help you get unstuck in different areas of your life. Now here’s your host, Lara Jaye.

Lara Jaye:Good morning and welcome to The Zen Leader.I am your host, Lara Jaye, and I am so glad you joined me this morning. Last week was our first show here on WSRQ, where I laid out the foundation of what The Zen Leaderis all about. If you haven’t listened to the show yet, you can go to www.wsrqradio.comand under “Local Shows,” and then “The Zen Leader,” and you can download it from the website. Soon, it will also be on iTunes.

Anyway, last week I talked a lot about my perfect storm. Maybe you have storms in your life. I talked about my perfect storm and what hit me when my marriage of 25 years ended in divorce. I experienced a health crisis and a spiritual awakening that I completely fought against. Piled in the middle of this massive storm was a hatred for myself that knew no end.

Now, hating yourself, [CHUCKLE] that’s pretty intense, right? But I didn’t realize until I started doing this work how important a healthy self-esteem really is. Self-esteem. It’s the cornerstone. It’s a confidence and satisfaction in yourself. Not ego, but it’s tied to your self-respect. It’s how you think. It’s how you feel about yourself, your health, relationships. Even your job can be affected by the way you value — or don’t value — yourself.

Self-esteem — or lack of it — can affect every area of your life, and I don’t think people realize this, how important it is. If you can hold your head high and feel proud of yourself and what you do, even when things don’t seem to be going well. Self-esteem gives you that courage. It gives you the courage to try new things and have the power to believe in yourself. It’s a measure of how you see yourself and how you feel about your life. Again, it’s not ego. It’s not bragging.

A healthy self-esteem, it’s an inner knowledge that you’re worthy exactly as you are. You accept and love yourself, at this moment, flaws and all. There are some people who are just born with incredible self-esteem, but then there are others, like myself, who, okay, that just wasn’t there.

I always say that self-esteem is a measure of how you see yourself and how you feel about your life. It will make sense. It would make sense to you that, in order to have good self-esteem, we would need to do things for ourselves and in our lives, that honor the amazing creations that we already are.

Essentially, I always feel like to have a healthy self-esteem, loving ourselves is a must. I write about this in my book that not loving yourself is kind of like watching dominos fall, one right after the other. Because if we don’t love ourselves, we choose maybe to not eat healthy or exercise, and that can send us down the road of health issues. We might allow anger to overcome us, and that can result in hurting others. Or if it’s pushed inward, sometimes depression and more health issues.

Not loving yourself can also present itself in other ways. Like, you might get frustrated easily. Sometimes you can have an eating disorder from it. Withdraw socially. Sometimes you can have an inability to see yourself squarely or be fair to yourself. You can’t accept compliments, neglect yourself, are reluctant to take on challenges.

You don’t trust your own opinion. This is so important. I never trusted myself for what I really wanted. I knew, deep down, the answers, but I always felt that I had to ask someone else. Often, too, folks who struggle with self-love or self-esteem, we can’t ever believe we’re enough. And no matter how hard we try, or how often we even hear it from other people, we still can’t believe we’re enough.

So, in order to heal this intense hatred I had for myself and bridge this disconnect between my body and soul, I began to intuitively do the three foundational pieces that I mentioned last week. The first one was to be still. That was, if you remember, embrace the white space in your day and get quiet, and just calm yourself. Be still. The second thing was to silence the mind chatter – not resist. Let this mind chatter come up, and the feelings, and handle it. Feel it. Don’t be afraid of it. The third thing was meditation. I would say the difference between prayer and meditation, for me, prayer is when I’m doing all the talking. I talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Meditation is when I finally — and you, finally — get quiet enough, shut our mouths, and hear. Hear the next direction. Hear our guidance. That, for me, is the difference.

But by digging deep into these three main tools, they’ll help you see what’s really happening in your life, and they’re going to help you clear the patterns and stuck emotions — which we are going to talk about today — so that you can eventually define even a new, bigger vision for your own life, if that’s what you want. It will help destress you. There are just so many things that it will do.

Over the last week, I heard from a few listeners that began to slow down by practicing being still and things were coming up for them. They were feeling emotions that they really weren’t quite sure what to do with them, and we are going to talk about that today.

Emotions are like a river. They should flow and they should flow freely. Using that river analogy, if your emotions are blocking up the dam, shall we say, the water can’t move freely and it causes issues. It causes detours, bumps in the road. Right? Sometimes our boat tips. Sometimes the river is muddy and we can’t even see what’s holding us back or sending us on a detour underneath the surface. Not dealing with our emotions can lead to all kinds of problems, like you feel trapped, you stop revealing really who you are. You begin to feel afraid of those emotions and then we suppress them even more. We push them back down — because they’re scary — because we have not been taught how to deal with them. The more we try to hold them in, it’s just a vicious circle. The more we try to hold them in, the scarier they get. They more they scare us the more, we hold them in.

In the end, it just becomes extra hard for us to live a full, happy life, with all of the suppressed emotion that’s built up. That’s what we’re really going to dig into today. This is what we do, though: We numb and we dumb ourselves so that we don’t have to feel. We keep ourselves busy at work, running around. We over schedule ourselves. We overeat. Some of us even over exercise. That’s not one that I do, but a lot of people do do that.

I warned you last week that this was most likely going to happen when you got still. Being still, emotions, things are going to come up. Mind chatter.

Being in touch with our own emotions and feelings makes us a better person. Whether you are a male or a female, child or adult, we can be authentically ourselves without having to put on a show for others. When we choose to bury our feelings though, this is what happens: We are actors. We act and we react.

By the end of today’s show, we will cover what to do with emotions that are coming up for you. In the last segment, we’re going to do even a guided meditation together, clearing some of those stuck emotions.

But before we dive into that, I want to share with you this concept that you may or may not have heard of, but your life is a reflection of your own inner world. Let me repeat that: Your life is a reflection of your own inner world. Everything in it: the people, the circumstances, the drama or not. I know that’s kind of a hard concept to grasp.

Honestly, it’s hard to admit. I did not want to believe it either, when I first learned the concept, until I personally started looking at difference scenarios in my life and matching it up with what was going on inside of me. And trust me, it wasn’t pretty to admit.

For example… I will share some of my examples. I was complaining to a friend of mine about the crazy drivers in Miami and he asked me, in return, “What’s going on inside of you that feels crazy and out of control?” [00:10:00]And that stopped me in my tracks because, at the time, my entire life felt like it was spinning out of control. He reminded me what I feel inside, I am putting out into the world, and receiving that same or more back. It’s kind of scary, if you think about it.

Have you ever noticed that when you’re feeling afraid, there seems to be more and more things that happen in your life that invoke fear? Or even the opposite. You’re feeling loved and respected and it seems that everywhere you go, you’re loved and respected.

If you’re living in a messy house, I suspect your inner thoughts, actions, and beliefs are not clear and organized. The same if you have a messy, unkept car. What about yourself? How do you treat yourself with respect? As not valuable? I suspect you’re letting others treating you the same.

Think of this concept as the computer software programming that’s running you. We’re going to talk more about this in a few minutes when we come back from break, and I’m looking forward to just really diving in on this computer software program that runs us. We’ll be right back on WSRQ with The Zen Leader.

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Lara Jaye:We’re back on WSRQ with Lara Jaye and The Zen Leader. Right before break, we were talking about your life as a reflection of your own inner world, and I said think of this concept as the computer software programming that’s running you. Some of it runs in the forefront and other parts of it is running in the background without you even being aware, like your subconscious. In there are the beliefs and values that were implanted in us and, generally, at a very early age.

If there is something in your life you don’t like, you get to change it. A lot of us think that we don’t have control, but we really do. Think of your life and what you’re attracting and what you really don’t want. Here’s an example, a date who doesn’t respect or treat you the way you think you should be treated. Maybe you aren’t really valuing or respecting yourself first.

No matter what you’re doing consciously, the subconscious, that background computer program, runs the show, no matter what we’re doing consciously. The subconscious has been running their programs longer, they are stronger, and they are deeper engrained in our bodies. That’s why affirmations alone don’t work. The affirmations have to have deep feeling and deep emotion behind them to work in order to override.

Our bodies are such masterpieces. They tell us what we need. They tell us when to slow down, when to get quiet. They tell us when they want to release the emotions and when it wants to talk to us. And what do we do? We overburden it. We, again, numb and dumb ourselves because we think we have to get all of this stuff done. Or what? What’s really going to happen? Nothing. It’s just that this is engrained in us: Go, go, go, go, go, do, do, do, do, do, instead of slowing down and just being.

So these subconscious programs are the frequencies that are really going out into the world, bringing to you what you’re experiencing, and some of it you just might not like. Today, I want to offer to you to begin to look at your life from a higher perspective and compare it to what’s going on inside of you.

Now, this is not easy work. It takes time and, most often, lots of tears as you move through the layers of difficulties that have mounted inside of you. So, where do you begin? It’s begin to notice. You just notice. Become aware of what is going on around you and inside of you. Become aware of the traffic. Become aware of the things that are in your life that maybe you don’t want in there anymore.

You can’t change your life until you tap into what’s really going on inside of you. We need to take responsibility for our lives and take the time to do the inner work. Very few people are willing to do that. Very few clients are willing to do that. They might start and sometimes they struggle, but they, in the end, have to want this. You have to want this. You have to want to do the inner work, and it takes a while, but you can watch your outer world begin to show this new, amazing reflection of the new you that was created inside by changing your subconscious programming.

That subconscious programming is why we react to seemingly small things going on in our lives. It’s because they really have nothing to do with the present event. It was just a catalyst to bring up something stuck in our subconscious. I call them “triggers” myself. I will give you an example of a trigger.

So, I was at a retreat with a group of ladies and had recently been… I had talked about being diagnosed with Hashimoto’s and one of the main things was I needed to eat, for the most part, gluten free. Well, another woman in my group also had the exact same autoimmune disease, but her physician had said 100% gluten free and I was supposed to be somewhat gluten free.

Anyways, it was snack time and we were getting ready to have some snacks and I picked up something and immediately the other woman that was 100% gluten-free asked me, “Really, should you be eating that because that might have gluten in it,” or might have gluten or something, and it just triggered in me… it was small and it was silly how I reacted, and it was a small, loving gesture on her part, but how I reacted was uncalled for and I couldn’t comprehend – it took me about 15 minutes. I had to go for a walk and calm down and come back, and I thanked her. I thanked her for bringing up in me something that had nothing to do with what she had said to me, but it brought up something of when I was younger, of a disconnect to my body, of being weighed and measured and put on a door, and always having that feeling that I was not good enough and have to be on a diet.

So, it brought all of that up. Why? So I could talk about it and be healed from it and not carry that around in my body. It was a stuck emotion in my body. Again, it had nothing to do with that woman. But what do we do? We attack them. And unless I would have not done the inner work, I would have gone the rest of my life being mad at her. Instead, I thank her. Our soul brings in people in our lives because it knows, “Okay, Lara, you’re ready to get rid of this stuck emotion, so we’re going to let this circumstance come into your life so that you can clear it, so that you can move forward with your life and not hold this in your body anymore.” That’s just one example of triggers. There’s so many. I’m sure you can think of ones yourself.

Maybe you have experienced a time in your life when you also reacted to something that was so silly and you couldn’t figure out why you reacted like you did. Again, if your life is a reflection or a mirror of what’s going on inside of you, and if there is something in your life that you want to change, that you don’t like what’s out there or what’s showing up in your life, once we can pinpoint what that is, where it is in your body, what it is, we clear it.

Or, actually, at work I call it “clearing your crap.” This is actually my signature session I do with clients and for more information on it, you can go to my website at www.larajaye.com, and clearing that chaos — or crap — is always an internal process first, before our outer world can come into alignment with our dreams and the things that we really want in there, the people that we want, the support, the love, and we may not even have a clue what those dreams are for our life. But until we start clearing some of these past patterns and emotions that are stuck in our body, we’re never going to be able to see above the fog, above the fray, until we start getting rid of some of the stuff that’s stuck in us because, as we know, like attracts like.

Clearing the chaos in our lives — and this is what I do with clients, everyday — includes we look at, intellectually, what we say to ourselves in our mind, [00:20:00]physically. Our physical spaces — body, home, car, work, relationships — are all mirrors of what’s going on inside of us.

Emotions. Emotionally. Our emotions stem from our thoughts and they get stuck in our bodies. Also energetically. Everything that is you and attached to you that makes you the ball of light that you are.

So, it’s about letting go of things that no longer serve you. Then, we bring you back into balance so that the real you can shine, without all of the stuck emotions on us where we walk around all as triggers and acting, and reacting. You know? At the grocery store, when someone cuts in front of you, maybe they’re in a desperate hurry to feed their baby. We just don’t know.

But these are tools that I work with my clients on. When I talk to clients, we talk about all of the different areas in their lives and where they feel like their blockage is. What needs cleared? Is it in the health area? Emotional? Beliefs? Relationships? Love? Spiritual? Parenting? Social life? Financial life? Quality of life? They’re all of these.

One of my clients, Lisa, she was very depressed and not sure what the point of even getting up for the day was. She is single and continues to attract men who are not available physically or emotionally to her. We began, in our sessions, evaluating where in Lisa’s life is she not physically or emotionally available to herself.

So, if you see something that’s showing up in your life — for Lisa, men who weren’t physically or emotionally available — switch it. Go, “Where in my life am I not physically or emotionally available to myself?”

Of course, we also dove into her depression. We attract what we are. We attract what we hold in our bodies. We want love? We need to be love. We want health, wealth, abundance? We need to be it in our bodies first. Again, like attracts like. I want to help you learn how to tap in to your body and to make decisions from the inside out and no more reacting. As soon as we get back from break, we’re going to talk more about this here, on The Zen Leader.

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Lara:Welcome back with Lara Jaye and The Zen Leader. We were talking about we attract what we are. We attract what we hold in our bodies, the emotions. We want love? We need to be love. We want health, wealth, abundance? We need to be it in our bodies first.

Again, I’m going to help you today learn how to tap into your body and make decisions from the inside out. No more of this walking around, reacting. No more making decisions based on what they think. You know who “they” is – everyone else, outside of you.

Right now, think about what’s burdening you. What are you dreading? Where are you struggling? Where are you struggling to find an incentive to keep going? Maybe there’s something from the long ago past that keeps you from playing bigger in your life. What’s the one small thing in your life, right now, that isn’t going the way that you want it to? Where are you stuck or frustrated? Where is your life chaotic?

As I mentioned, the first step is getting still and noticing. This allows our emotions to come to the surface. Normally, we would just shut them down. We would numb out on the TV or chocolate, perhaps. Maybe we jump on the treadmill, with music blaring in our ears. Or even work in the late hours of the night just so we don’t have to feel whatever is in the pit of our stomach that was trying to get our attention.

Today, I am going to teach you something new and that’s how to clear stuck patterns and emotions in your body. I want everyone to get in a really comfy spot. Sit comfortably. I’m going to guide you through a clearing meditation for releasing emotions and we’re going to do this for the next 9 minutes. Let’s begin.

Get comfortable sitting up straight, eyes closed. Put a hand or two on your stomach area and take a few really deep breaths in. Breathe in through your nose, pushing your stomach out. You should feel your hand that’s on your stomach area rise with each breath. Let’s do that a couple of more times and I’ll be quiet. Breathe in through your nose. Let your stomach rise with each breath.

What’s on your mind right now that’s causing frustration? What are you feeling right now? Is there something holding you back from being who you’re called to be? Maybe it’s guilt over something from 20 years ago. Maybe it’s shame or something that happened to you that you didn’t have any control over. I want you to tap into that emotion right now. Just pick one. Whatever it is, feel it and let it come up to the surface. Don’t be afraid. There is no need to judge it. Simply observe and notice whatever that feeling is.

Now, I want you to feel that emotion in your body. Just while you’re sitting there, just kind of scan your body from top to bottom. Top of your head to the bottom of your feet. Scan your body and put your hand on that part of your body where you feel that emotion is sitting. A lot of times, it’s sitting in our stomach area. It might be on a shoulder. A lot of times I feel PTSD in people and it’s in their heart area.

If you don’t feel it in any particular area, that’s okay, too. No judgment here. Just keep feeling the emotion. The one emotion. Feel it. Put your hand on the part of your body where you think it’s residing and let that emotion rise to the surface. Feel the sensation in your body. Follow it around your body. Does it move around or is it just really stuck there? Does it make you sick to your stomach? Does it make your heart hurt? What memory does this emotion evoke? Don’t be afraid because what we resist, persists. Be open and let this emotion, feel it, let it move through your body. Like the river, we’re going to let it flow. Go slowly. There’s no hurry.

Invite your mind to revisit the scenario that may be attached to the feeling. We are welcoming this emotion to come up for a reason. It’s ready. It’s ready to be healed and cleared and moved out of your body. What’s the scenario that’s attached to it? Feel that emotion for one last time. [00:30:00]

Right now, we are going to honor and love and respect the feeling or emotion that’s stuck in our body. We’re going to respect it. It’s holding us back from being who we’re called to be, but we want to talk to it first. We want to hear what it wants to say to us. We want to know why it’s still here and what we need to know from it. Tap into this emotion. Feel it. Visualize it. If it could speak, what does it want to say to you? What does it want you to know about why it’s there or why it hasn’t left? Feel it. Honor it. Show it respect. It wants to tell you something. It wants to teach you something. Embrace it.

Now, with your hands, gently and lovingly – your hands, again, are on the part of your body where this emotion is sitting, so I want you to gently and lovingly pull the emotion out of your body just with your hands. Obviously, this is invisible. But it is emotion, it’s energy. It’s stuck in your body. I want you to pull it out of you and hold it in front of you, and we are going to honor it and thank it for teaching us whatever it needed to teach us. Thank it for what it did. But now it’s time to go.

When you’re ready to let go of this emotion, once and for all, just hold out both hands. Hold out both hands in front of you, with the emotion in it that you just pulled out of your body, and allow God and His angels to take it from you.

Again, put your arms out and let go of that trapped emotion. Imagine it being carried away, never to return, and let the emotions flow. You might be crying at this point. You might be feeling a lot of different emotions. Let it flow.

Imagine a gold and white light pouring into your head area and through your entire body. This light from God and His angels is permeating your cells and they are especially filling the spot where the emotion was that you just let go of.

As you take your next deep breath, notice how amazing you feel right now – lighter, burdenless, stronger. Now, slowly begin to reawaken. Begin to move different body parts – your toes, fingers, feet, roll your neck. When you are ready, open your eyes and sit quietly for a moment.We are going to be able to continue on your day, feeling energized and ready to live from this new, stronger spot.

We are going to take a break right now. When we come back, we will continue this conversation. We’ll be right back with The Zen Leader.

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Lara:I’m Lara Jaye and we’re back with The Zen Leader. Welcome back from break. Right before break, we did a little meditation. I cannot wait to hear from you and how that meditation made a difference for you. You can email me at info@larajaye.com. Also, if you would like an MP3 of that clearing meditation, I would be happy to send you that, complimentary. Again, just shoot me an email. I’d be glad to send that to you.

Meditation, that was just an example of just one guided meditation that I do with clients, as well as several others. But clearing the stuff in our bodies is the main thing that we all need to do so that we’re not walking around, triggering each other, acting, and reacting.

I say “acting” because we really cannot be our true self when we have… I don’t know, just imagine we’re walking around with all of this stuff stuck on us. You know? I mentioned earlier PTSD. There’s a lot of people, men and women, that have come back from war, people that have been traumatized in that way, people who have been traumatized just in whatever living and growing up and whatever living conditions. A lot of men and women are walking around with this stuck in their bodies and it is very painful. It’s painful. It causes health issues. That’s what all of these stuck emotions do is they stop us from being who we’re truly meant to be, who we’re called to be when we’re not dealing daily — on a daily basis — with a lot of these emotions. Especially if it’s something from years and years ago.

 So, by the time we hit our 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s, we have a lot of stuff we’re holding on to and as we walk around, everyone walks around life, someone else might say something and it will trigger us. Again, it has nothing to do generally with what’s happening right in that moment, but it’s something stuck in our bodies saying, “Hey! I’ve been trying to get your attention. You’re too busy. You’re not paying attention to me, so I’m going to create this circumstance that’s going to make you deal with it.” That is, hence, the trigger, as I call it.

We did this little meditation. Again, I have lots more where that came from. This is how important meditation is: Meditation – we’re going to talk a lot about this on The Zen Leaderover the weeks to come, how important meditation is and what it does for us in helping us dive deep inside of us and to really see what’s really there. You know? What beliefs and values are we holding on to that really aren’t us anymore? Maybe they were our parents and what they believed, and we don’t believe that. It’s things like that that meditation really uncovers.

Originally, I talked a few minutes ago about my client, Lisa, and we dove into her patterns and emotions. When we did that, we uncovered a hatred for herself and she didn’t belief she was ever good enough or deserved love. We were able to recognize layers of patterns — both conscious and unconscious — and cleared these blockages in her physically, emotionally, intellectually, and energetically. So, we dove deep into her depression, actually asking it why it is in her life and what it wants to teach her.

I can say when I was — for 10 years — I was extremely depressed, on and off antidepressants, and I, myself, I was in my counselor’s office and I saw a book sitting there. I think it was called “What Does Your Depression Want to Teach You?” and that question triggered me to start journaling about: Why are you here? Why am I depressed? Why are you here? Why won’t you leave? That set me on — that was probably about 15 years ago — and that set me on a journey of writing as healing, which is how I started writing.

But, for me, uncovering the depression… for depression, for everyone, it’s very different and it can’t really leave us until we understand why it’s there, why is it in our life. A lot of times it’s hereditary, there’s circumstances. There’s just so many different factors and we need to dive into not just depression, but all health issues and all issues. Why are you here? Why are you in my life? Why are there people in my life that don’t value me? Why do I let them in? Maybe I’m not valuing me. [00:40:00]Why do I let craziness or drama in my life? Where am I feeling out of control myself?

These are the things that going inward, meditating, does for us. We are able to just really look at it from a different perspective. Look at ourselves. Stepping back and looking at ourselves from a different perspective and going, “Okay, so if that’s in my body, is that really who I am? Do I really believe that?” Then we’ve got all these heads going on.

Then we’ve got some mind chatter going. We will talk a few minutes about mind chatter, of course, because it’s very, very important. I have an entire chapter on it in my book, More Than Enough.

Mind chatter, again, is another reason why we keep the radio on all the time. We don’t want to hear what our head is telling us. For years, I never understood that the mind chatter in my head was really… I got to control it. I didn’t know that I had control. So if you don’t know that, you know that now, just by hearing me. You get to control it.

It’s like – I mentioned this last week. It’s like a radio station. We get to decide if we are going to change the channel or not. If we don’t like what is being said, we get to choose. Do we like what it’s saying? Is it being positive and uplifting? Or are we telling ourselves negative things and going down that road, instead? Which, again, we feel it in our bodies.

We think negative thoughts? Our bodies start feeling bleh. We feel negative. Everything we think gives off, scientifically and medically, it changes our bodies. It gives off these endorphins and chemicals that actually tell us, “Okay. You’re thinking negative thoughts. Then your body is going to get these chemicals to produce more negative chemicals in your body.” That, of course, then leads us down even to a deeper, darker road, and we keep going. And it’s harder and harder to climb back up and to change that channel. That’s where meditation comes in because we can move around mind chatter a little bit easier once we can see, from the outside, looking in, what it’s really doing to us. That’s why it’s so important to take time every day to be still, to let our minds quiet.

My chapter is called “Silence the Mind Chatter.”

It’s so important to take that quiet time to hear what we’re telling ourselves because, again, whatever is prevalent in our mind is really what our subconscious is programmed. We may not even realize that we’re speaking to ourselves in this way. When I really slowed down, I couldn’t believe how mean I was being to myself, and you might do the same thing. I didn’t need anyone else to be mean to me; I was so mean to myself, in my head. Then I beat myself up that way. I didn’t need anyone else to say anything mean to me. That just sent me over the edge and caused a trigger anyway. The bottom line is dive into yourself. This is so important. Take that time. Take that time and be you, to be the real you. Again, we have to get still first.

Like I mentioned, with my client, Lisa, we were able to recognize these layers of patterns and clear these blockages in her physically, emotionally, intellectually, energetically. We dove into her depression and her other issues. We still do this. It’s not something you can do one day and then be done. There are layers and layers and layers.

After, shall we say, clearing her crap, Lisa was able to move to the second part and that was actually redefining a new vision for her life. She was able to see through the fog why she’s really here. Now, she’s being the love that she truly always was. It was just hidden. That’s what happens to us when we’re walking around with all of this stuck stuff on us. Who we are is really hidden. But now? She’s living life full on, each day, from her soul shining brightly.

That’s what you can do. You can feel amazing, jumping out of bed every day, excited. No matter what you’re doing right now in your life, I want you to know it’s perfect and you’re exactly where you need to be. Even if that’s in a feeling of being stuck, frustrated, and chaotic, that’s awesome. Use it to propel yourself to learning how to love yourself without any guilt, shame. Handle this stuff. Handle the emotions and stuck patterns, and define that new vision.

If you’re ready to do even more work around this, again, you can find me at www.larajaye.comunder the “Work with Me” section. Of course, email me anytime, info@larajaye.com. It’s been great being with you this hour and I will see you next Saturday on The Zen Leader.

 

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